Playing Games with Purpose
Playing Games with Purpose
During my search for answers I encountered various opinions for success in playing the game called life. During this search I read scores of books with ideas and opinions on how to win, succeed, and achieve external success in this game. I believe most people and even most books have missed some or all of the five fundamental rules for keeping ourselves grounded while we play this most important game.
Early in 2007 I was one of four people nominated for the 2006 Rookie of the Year award from the Salt Lake Board of Realtors. At that time, I had the big house and the fast cars, and money seemed to flow into my life from every direction. I achieved all my goals for the previous year and I was at the top of my game. I had all the trappings of success that said I was somebody. I had it all; or at least I thought I did.
On the outside it seemed everything was going my way. Then, when I didn't win the award for Rookie of the Year, I felt devastated. Although I had just made more money in one year as a real estate agent than I had in the previous five years combined, that still wasn't enough. I needed that award to validate myself as a person of success. After all that was the goal, right? To be validated as a successful person.
When I didn't win the award, my identity began to shatter and I started spiraling downward at a rapid rate. By August 2007 I had started drinking, got a divorce, and was broke all within four months. All of the dreams I had financed became living nightmares. At last I contemplated suicide. I wanted to die because my life had no meaning. Up to this point I had spent my entire life trying to prove myself to everyone else, to make myself feel better by being Somebody. Everything I had done or even thought of doing had been in the pursuit of money, property or prestige, because this was where my identity lay.
During this time the real estate market changed and I started doing odd jobs in order to provide for my family. That's when I started to look for a solution to my problems by reading and listening to every success book I could find. But in this pursuit I also grew discouraged because it seemed the information I found was essentially the same except for the way it was presented. It seemed I was rereading the same tired message I had grown up with, the message, "Go Big or Go Home." I had already traveled that path and had come up empty.
This book is about my journey home, and my hope is that it will assist you in your journey also.
The Five Fundamentals
The five fundamental rules outlined in this book are designed to empower you on the way to realizing your purpose. Practicing the five fundamentals every day provides you with a more spiritual approach to fulfilling your desires.
My intent is to assist you in tapping your highest potential along the way to fulfilling your "Purpose." These five fundamentals are designed to keep you grounded with your inner self and to help you recognize what you have, who you are, and what you want along the way to meeting your desires, all in the service to humanity. My hope is that these rules will shift your paradigm of success.
GAMES is the acronym I created for these five fundamentals. The five letters of GAMES stand for Gratitude, Affirmations, Meditation, Energize, and Service. As I practi