God and Boobs
God and Boobs
INTRO TO BOOBS
Boobs are a symbol of sexuality, fashioned by a God who created femininity in His image. By divine design, boobs rest high upon a woman's frame, inches below a sparkling smile. No matter their size, small or large, they cannot hide. They are in the spotlight. Bras and surgery can minimize or enlarge, flatten or lift their appearance, but they're still feminine. They won't be tucked away to hang low, hidden in trousers. Dress boobs in a tight, low-cut top or a loose turtleneck; they're still boobs, front and center. With good posture, shoulders back and chin up, boobs bravely lead the way into any room. Want a hug? Watch out for those boobs. Need to lift something from the floor? Better keep the girls in place, or they might wander off, seeking attention.
Every woman begins life with a pair of boobs. Few of us are satisfied with the ones we're given. Women don't need breasts to function or survive, but if we lose them, we mourn a very personal loss of femininity. A family member of mine had breast cancer surgery and got an implant immediately afterward, because she wanted to feel sexy for her husband. And yet, the cancer surgery hadn't altered her gender; she's a woman no matter what.
When I started telling friends and colleagues I was writing a book called God and Boobs , some women were appalled, while others just laughed. I'd hoped for the latter reaction, but never anticipated the outrage. Naturally, I had known the title would rattle a few religious cages. My grandmother took a deep breath before saying patiently, "Okay, tell me why that's your title." My grandmother takes pause when she is filtering out her old, religious paradigms and opening herself to new ideas. Her reaction was more consistent with what I expected to encounter from others. I wasn't prepared for tears, or the silent treatment, or follow-up phone calls about what a horrible decision I was making. Not every reaction was extreme, but enough women were dismayed that it got me thinking, Should I change the title?
The women who were upset about my title (and it seemed to be only women getting upset) told me their reasons. One buxom friend said the title is offensive to women with her body type. She had no idea why God would create her so top-heavy. She felt embarrassed by a figure impossible to hide, and she had contemplated a breast reduction for years. She thought my book title would trivialize "the shame women feel about big breasts" and ultimately push them away from God.
Another woman blamed her petite frame and small breasts for years of male rejection. "What does rejection have to do with God?" she demanded. She told me that God doesn't care about a woman's figure but only who she is on the inside. She thought my title would send the message that women are trophies to acquire.
A few women, upon hearing about the book, had a glazed-over, watery look in their eyes. I knew their moms and friends had battled breast cancer. I wondered if the title reminded them of times they turned to God in mourning.
I learned that what makes me laugh also makes some women cry. Then, I kept the title, because these reactions, coming from women who share my faith in God, upheld my conviction that religion undermines a woman's sexuality and suppresses her femininity.
The truth is that there is nothing funny, humiliating or shameful about a woman's figure. We must embrace our sexuality, boobs and all, if we are to live by faith.
The canon of feminist ideologies essentially holds to the same principle at its core: Women should have the freedom to be fully female, to live up to their greatest potential, without restriction, without inequality and without shame. I believe that God, too, wants us to pursue our destiny without constraint. I believe God has wanted that for us all along.
The combination of faith and femininity is powerful. Women don't have