The Healing of Emotion
The Healing of Emotion
Our lives seem filled with separations, schisms, leavetaking. We take leave of someone, we terminate a relationship, there is a death. We separate after lovemaking. We divorce. Children leave the house. The infant stops suckling at its mother's breast. At birth, we separate-or are separated-from the protective shield of our mother. And to go back even farther: at some point, somehow, our spirits, our divine spark, separated from God.
We have emerged from the formless. The soul has decided to become incarnate. Thus we create the body that is to become our new home of existence. It is a "young" expression, which means the externalization of the source energy that moves toward our manifestation. By means of the yang energy, we surge outward from creation, and then suddenly find ourselves in a body and in a new environment. The door behind us gradually closes, the connection to the creative source, to our divine self, becomes nebulous as our consciousness narrows down into the realm of the physical. Unacknowledged by the world of form, the divine self retires into the formless-and thus our fear begins.
We know that we want to acquire form. Our souls have made this decision. With our own creative powers we execute a conscious act, that of incarnation. But as soon as this act is executed, and the concomitant separation takes place (the body is the separation), doubts crop up, as do fear and anger, because direct recognition of this choice and knowledge dissolve. Our memory of the conscious decision to become incarnate disappears, and for the first time, the body has to orient itself outward to seek survival. Thereby, it begins to experience fear and anger and anguish about the separation. Deeply imbedded in the blueprint of embodiment is this memory of oneness, the universal mergence of all life.
Every separation enhances our desire to regain the lost connection with an essence we don't consciously remember. With every new separation, we experience different aspects of our vital dilemma: to be cut off, isolated, divorced from an overall, embracing life context, to be isolated within a limited consciousness. No matter how often we may have chosen these separations ourselves, perhaps in order to progress in our individualization, the actual separations of consciousness nonetheless keep triggering an impulse to regain the lost wholeness.
Typically, two basic archetypal emotions, fear and anger, characterize these cyclical separation processes. Fear and anger are two different manifestations of one single, fundamental reaction on the part of the emotional body. They are the two core emotions that express the separation trauma-whether it is one of the big, original separations such as the separation from God or the separation at birth, or whether it is but one of the everyday separations.
As we consider the "hologram," the totality of our experiences, we see that birth or some other profound process of separation sets a kind of energy in motion. In the course of our further experiences, this energetic motion leads us back to the point of departure in a circular way. The separation or isolation or divorce cannot completely cover up our memory of what is real. The limitations and obstacles we experience in our "new identity" as isolated beings-at the same time as we are experiencing new possibilities and challenges-evoke fear and anger.
In this book we will explore the fundamental aspects of fear and anger and investigate the ways and means of overcoming them. Fear is the "feminine," the "yin" way of experiencing our hurt of separation. Fear is that yin energy that often finds its manifestation in defense, rejection, and resistance against someone or something. Fear is a form of energy that literally drowns the vital forces and is far more dangerous than anger. For while anger keeps the organism in motion and lends the organism vital forces (albeit possible destru