The Break-up Bible
The Break-up Bible
3-6 months after the break-up
If you are reading this book just after your break-up, and have got to this stage, you may feel terrified that it will take this long to forget your ex. But I am going to tell you that there is no time limit on getting over a broken heart. It may take you a few weeks to completely stop thinking about him and realize that he was a loser, but it may take someone else six months, or more. Nothing is certain. It is as simple as that! The best you can do is to plough through with your head held high.
There is good news, girlfriend, the worst appears to be behind you! Polish up your sharp wisdom every day, stick by your newly created set of rules, and keep improving your knowledge.
Time to get rid of his stuff
When I said before that you should keep some of his belongings, text messages and emails, I warned that the time will come when you need to get rid of them. Well, the time is now! Now you have survived the initial shock of the break-up and the overwhelming pain of the last few weeks, you are ready to part with the past that represents him. Under no circumstances though, you should use this as an excuse to contact him to return his belongings. Let's just presume that since he was doing fine without them until now, he doesn't need them anymore. Throw them straight where they belong; in the waste bin, or burn them in the bucket in your backyard. Remember to do this safely!
His emails to you, his text messages and other forms of written communications like letters or posted notes, should share the fate of his belongings. If you feel you are still not ready to let go, I will insist that you trust me on this and get rid of this stuff anyway. There is a reason you must do this; you can't keep living in the past! I know it hurts and I know it is hard to let go. Like you, I was there, but this is crucial if you want to progress and forget about him. Even if you are initially not convinced, you will feel better after doing it.
Could this break- up mean re-birth for you? If you are still struggling with letting go of him emotionally, or his belongings, empower yourself with a little parting ceremony. Invite friends for some drinks and get rid of his stuff that night. It's a good idea to be supported by mates when you do this. There is a possibility that this will be upsetting, but it will not last long however, and it may be purifying.
At home you can light a candle and burn his photos, etc, in the flame, if you feel you need to. But please do this very carefully! Imagine the light as a new powerful force that now glows inside you and portray it as new energy to keep you going. Whenever you feel down refer to this energy as a source of comfort with positive healing qualities. It now shines inside you and you own it.
Re-train your brain by repeating positive thoughts and statements
Remember positive statements? Keep producing them and read them to you